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  • umpire344

    Do u check your scores periodically, frequently at home?? How do you make time for research ?? Is your significant other supportive?? I noticed I frequently check my scores on my phone and my wife hasn’t really got on my ass for it but I can tell she’s a little annoyed!! I don’t want it to become a problem. Anyone have some advice?

  • satchmo77

    @mabrla said...

    Winning solves everything unfortunately.

    If you aren’t getting big payouts it will annoy others. If you are, they’ll support you.

    I think that’s the best thing I’ve read on here. So true.

  • deejones49

    Reminds of Brad Paisley’s fishing song. If you play DFS today i will be packing up all my clothes and be gone by noon. Well i’m going to miss her

  • Tammy409

    Great topic and looking fwd to reading replies. All I know as a divorced guy I have it way easy. But that said I have my 9-YO son part-time; and wasn’t sure how to feel about the prominent “DK’s Logo” featured on the last couple of hand drawn greeting xxx cards received from him.

  • PJGuin23

    DFS Tax Guru

    @Tammy409 said...

    Great topic and looking fwd to reading replies. All I know as a divorced guy I have it way easy. But that said I have my 9-YO son part-time; and wasn’t sure how to feel about the prominent “DK’s Logo” featured on the last couple of hand drawn greeting xxx cards received from him.

    That’s talent!

  • tgowen

    • Blogger of the Month

    @mabrla said...

    Winning solves everything unfortunately.

    If you aren’t getting big payouts it will annoy others. If you are, they’ll support you.

    Pretty accurate response.

    Of course it depends on the relationship, but a losing DFS player could have a hard time justifying it as a hobby that is any different than spending time at the casino or buying lottery/scratch tickets on a regular basis.

  • emac

    In my humble opinion, the best way to frame our dalliance with daily fantasy sports is as a hobby. How many people actually have the opportunity to make money fishing, golfing, collecting stamps or going to a movie?

    Could we spend less time checking our mobile devices for updates? Well, that is a resounding yes.

    However, more often than not are we found on the couch or in the den and with a shot at actually seeing a return for our efforts?

    Family first for sure, however, there are countless other hobbies that can be as much as a commitment. Be present in the moment as once the contests lock, as much as we wish, we truly cannot influence the outcome.

    In family scenarios, time and priority management is just as important as bankroll management. Perhaps even more.

    EMac

  • ClevelandPhil

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    Great topic guys. In the end, it is all about communication. The wife knows I enjoy DFS as a hobby and that it is something that makes me happy. As long as it doesn’t become destructive, she’ll support it. She also now plays DFS golf now and builds a lineup every week (and looks forward to it). We have a pretty good understanding that every night between 6:30 and 7 PM I’m going to be tweaking lineups and watching for news. But once lock hits, I need to be LOCKED in to bedtime/stories/bathtime, etc. That’s doing my part. On a Saturday, if I want to play an afternoon slate, I need to look at what we have going on that day and communicate to my wife that I plan on playing the 1 PM slate, do you have other plans? Most of the time, works out great. I’m up front with it and I try to stay off my phone most of the night after lock (but I do play a LOT of DK so its no big deal if I’m up to date on news). She goes to bed a lot earlier than I do so that’s when I start getting more serious about following my teams as the night goes on.

    I think the amount of time you’re able to get away with spending on it is directly related to the amount you’ve won and contributed to the family. First big win I had (over $1k) I bought and built a playset for my daughter in the backyard. I “give back” regularly and that gives me something to be proud of and a tangible benefit to my family. Several home improvements have been financed with DFS wins. That is one of the best ways to get in your family’s good graces. I can guarantee if I had never withdrawn $ the amount of understanding would be significantly decreased.

    When you’re done with your lineups or aren’t actively researching, you need to be “checked in” to your family. Your head can’t be somewhere else (harder said than done). You need to practice good BR management. “Yes, I deposited some of my overtime paycheck this month but none of my regular pay will go towards it.” Your family needs to feel comfortable that you aren’t risking money you don’t have and that you aren’t making it harder to pay your bills. Is that easier to do if you never deposit again? Of course, but that isn’t realistic for everyone. If it is a hobby you love tell the wife you are going to deposit $100 every month out of your pay and forego a few trips to the bar with friends or a round or two of golf. We all need to make choices and sacrifices. If you are playing DFS at a high level, but not giving up anything else you’ve done in the past, I could see it going poorly. If you aren’t willing to step it up and take care of the kids for an evening (and take a night off of DFS) so that your wife can go to yoga, I could see it going poorly. Communicate, pay attention to your wife and kids when you aren’t playing and explain how important playing DFS is to you. For a marriage to work, your wife needs to respect what’s important to you, no matter how ridiculous they may think it is, just like you think your wife’s amount of handbags is ridiculous.

  • Stewburtx8

    • 2012 FanDuel WFBC Finalist

    @ClevelandPhil said...

    just like you think your wife’s amount of handbags is ridiculous.

    Yes, yes I do.

    Very good post by the way.

  • louiescards

    DK KoTH winner

    For me it has always been a struggle to balance family and dfs but family always wins out and my play is sporadic as a result in the summers despite MLB being my favorite sport. As far as getting my wife on board I would say winning big always helps but even if that has not happened for you the RG party was a big eye opener for her. Not only were there a ton of like minded guys at these events but she has formed friendships with some of the wives and asks me constantly about the party each year to see what is on tap.

    Every family dynamic is different but as Emac mentioned treating this as a hobby goes a long way. We all have things we spend time/money doing and this one just happens to come with the added bonus of winning shiploads of money.

  • PJGuin23

    DFS Tax Guru

    @Stewburtx8 said...

    Yes, yes I do.

    Very good post by the way.

    Concur. Not to mention the 100th pair of shoes that will only be worn 3 times between purchase and the Goodwill pile. But DFS is a money wasting EVIL!

  • rjgboom

    I think she’s more concerned with the alcoholism rather than the degenerate gambling.

  • PJGuin23

    DFS Tax Guru

    @rjgboom said...

    I think she’s more concerned with the alcoholism rather than the degenerate gambling.

    My case it’s more the time spent, but people have also told me my wife is extremely demanding on time compared to others. Hard to say who’s right.

  • scsa1998

    The next 4 days are the perfect time to spend some family time together. No lineups to set and nothing to research.

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