Apologizing in advance for how lengthy this post is.
I’m not super familiar with DFS, other than what my boyfriend has told me over the past few months, so I wanted to ask you guys! My bf, let’s call him W, for now, has stopped picking up shifts at work to pursue his dream of becoming a DFS player full time. He basically went to work less and less and started playing more and more, until he didn’t really have a job. Do professional DFSers usually have day jobs? W keeps saying they don’t but nothing I read confirms that.
I was never ok with DFS being W’s sole source of income, but he said “I didn’t believe in him” when I protested. He often lies about DFS, how many tournaments he’s playing vs. how many cash games, how much he made or lost, about paying his friends back, etc….We’re basically broke now but W says DFS is going to be our income, so he’s pursuing it. I’ve literally skipped meals, because he spends any cash we get playing. He says hard times will be over soon. W stopped paying rent and I’m afraid we’re going to lose our apartment if he doesn’t make this real income fast. When I bring it up he gets pissed. He slowly borrowed around $1000 from my account to deposit in FD and DK, and has slowly paid some of it back! (See my confusion?) But he’s also borrowed from his friends. He lost some of that money and one dude has even written him off because of it. Is this an addiction or not?
I can’t tell because W works really hard grinding every day and often wins. He’s a self-proclaimed genius, with a lot of talent to back it up. The problem is, W rarely takes winnings out of DK or FD, he kiiiinda bets it again till he loses, then needs more. Is it normal to make deposits every day? He’s ranked in the top 1,500-2,000 players, and tells me this means he’s good enough to make this work. I can’t tell if he has a real shot, since W downplays losses and exaggerates achievements. Far as I can tell, he’s barely breaking even and still hasn’t hit a big win. He has skill, and I understand DFS isn’t all luck, but can it be relied on?
What’s the chance he can do this professionally? Should I do more to help him succeed? What am I doing wrong? Or should I try asking him to self-exclude? Am I really being too controlling/nagging? Has anyone gone through this as a player or s/o? How did you fix it?
Sorry if this is misplaced, I’m new here! Thanks for reading and advice would be appreciated. Trolls, plz stay under the bridge. ;)